The Vetting Guide : Red, Yellow & Green Flags in Modern Dating

Stop wasting your heart on people you knew were wrong by week three.

You've probably experienced it before — that moment three months into a relationship when you realise, with sinking clarity, that you missed every single warning sign. The controlling comment on the first date that you laughed off. The cancelled plans that seemed like a coincidence. The hot-and-cold pattern you convinced yourself was just their communication style.

You weren't stupid. You were simply dating without a system.

This 18-page field guide replaces the rose-tinted glasses with an objective, reproducible scoring framework — the kind dating coaches and therapists have been quietly using for years. Inside, you'll find:

• The Vetting Mindset — the three pillars of dating like a CEO, including why chemistry is not always a green flag
• A complete 1–10 scoring system across five core dimensions: communication, consistency, emotional maturity, values alignment, and character
• A date-by-date breakdown of the first five dates, each with its own purpose: the first impression audit, the consistency check, the values deep dive, the conflict & stress test, and the integration assessment
• For each date: what to observe, questions worth asking, a fillable scorecard, plus the specific red and yellow flags to watch for
• The Master Red Flag Reference — every red flag worth knowing, organised into narcissistic patterns, communication breakdowns, lifestyle deal-breakers, and boundary violations
• The Yellow Flag Watch List and the Green Flag Blueprint — because learning to recognise health is just as important as spotting harm
• A cumulative scoring matrix that converts your five-date totals into a clear recommended action
• Word-for-word scripts for the hardest conversations — addressing red flags, asking about intentions, exiting gracefully
• A Non-Negotiables Worksheet to complete before your next first date

This isn't about being cold or clinical. It's about honouring yourself enough to see clearly — before you invest the version of you that takes years to rebuild.

For the modern dater who is done settling.